Left to die....but who by?

This news/human interest story on Yahoo (http://uk.news.yahoo.com/07032007/397/woman-weighing-42st-die-0.html)
caught my eye and reminded me of the recent story about an 8 year old boy who weighed in at approximately 14stone.

In the case of the b0y, Social Services were facing criticism for considering taking the boy into care. In this case the National Health Service are being criticised for not providing treatment for a women who weighs in at 42 stone.

Surely it can't be right for Social Services to be criticised for considering action that would ensure the boy lost weight when the National Health Service are being criticised for being unable to take action to ensure weight loss?

Firstly, Social Services are trying to support the family of the obese 8 year old boy.
Secondly, the National Health Service have offered psychiatric care to the excessively morbidly obese women in the form of psychiatric care (which has been turned down) as she has suffered from Post Natal Depression.
Thirdly, the National Health Service previously paid for Sharon Mevsimler to have treatment at The Priory at a cost to the taxpayer of £5000 a week, resulting in a weight loss of 7 stone. That hardly seems to be doing nothing.

It seems that everything is the responsibility of the authorities one way or the other; they are criticised if they take action and now criticised if they don't. Why can't people accept responsibility for their own health and that of their families?

The mother of the obese boy told the BBC that "He refuses to eat fruit, vegetables and salads - he has processed foods. When Connor won't eat anything else, I've got to give him the foods he likes."

The husband of the obese woman (who apparently is confined to one room and has been for the past 18 months so presumably is not doing her own food shopping) has denied being a so called "feeder" - somebody who deliberately provides a loved one with an abundant food supply in order to cause weight gain.

The English language has a very powerful word that the mother, husband and wife would do well to learn.

That word is No. Just how difficult can that be?